Masturbation Gift-Busting: How to Gift A Sex Toy

Gift-giving is a wonderful way to share your affection for someone. Whether it's giving season, a birthday, or just because, a sex toy can be a great gift for someone in your life. However, we must remember that we do live in a society where sex is complicated.

Some folks have stigmas, traumas, and values that may affect how they react to things involving sex. For some, sex can be a very private thing — so private that they only share it between them and their sexual partner. For others, they'll speak about sex anytime — at the dinner table, at the coffee shop, in the middle of the street... Everyone's comfort zone is different and we need to be aware of that.

This is why it's important to evaluate to who you're gifting items. So here are some considerations and suggestions to make before you hit the "order" button.

Things to Consider Before You Gift a Sex Toy

1. Have "the talk"... or at least, a talk!

We all love a good surprise, but there's a fine line between surprise and shock. It is always the best idea to have a talk with your giftee about their interest and comfort level before booking that one-way trip to vibrator town. If you're at the point in a relationship to be gifting a sex toy, then asking your recipient about it shouldn't be a nerve-wracking experience.

Sex toys should only be gifted to someone you have already, previously talked about sex in someeee capacity! So that cousin, chum, and comrade you've previously chatted about coming with, though, are all fair game!

But don't use an R-rated gift to start the conversation about sex with your super-shy sibling or private pal. Doing so could make them d-e-e-p-l-y uncomfortable. And because you have ZERO idea what their sexual preferences or needs are, you'll give them something they won't even like.

It's also important to recognize that gifting a sex toy without intimate knowledge of someone can create a dubious area concerning consent. By gifting a sex toy, you're immediately bringing sex to the conversation. If that person did not consent to that kind of conversation with you, and this is your way of bringing it up, the reaction may not be exactly what you want.

However, if you do have intimate knowledge of a partner, and you know where they stand concerning the toy that you intend to get them, well... you might be making miracles in the bedroom!

One of the kinkiest and easiest ways to find out is by working it into your sex talk. Try talking about a sensation they enjoy and ask if adding a sex toy would elevate the experience. This takes the taboo off the table (unless doing it on the table is your thing) by letting your partner build on your joint fantasy and if that fantasy includes pleasure products.

2. Location, location, location

With any gift, presentation is key. And when the present is a sex toy, it's probably not best to bust that baby out in the middle of your anniversary party at Olive Garden. A good rule of thumb is to gift a sex toy somewhere yourself and the gift receiver would be comfortable opening it, and if that's in front of people, then so be it! Just be discreet and make sure the gifting is done with respect. With a partner, it may even provide the perfect setting for an immediate test drive!

RELATED: How to masturbate secretly in public places.

3. The type of sex

In a sex-positive crowd, a vibrator is rarely a polarizing option. However, gifting something like a butt plug, an impact toy, handcuffs or anything else often leaves the recipient's reaction a variable. We're trying to avoid those, so make sure you have a bit of information about this person's sexual proclivities before you purchase anything racier than say, a bullet vibe. Also, be mindful of the size and strength of what you're offering.

But if your good Judy is sex-positive and open-minded, then the next step is to find a toy that matches their pleasure type. Everyone has their own favorite occasion or situation for getting off, and we have the perfect gift for each one!

COMPLETE GUIDES: Before you jump into making a purchase, be sure to check out these complete pleasure product guides on mini vibrators, wand vibrators and wand vibrator attachments, and how to use stainless steel sex toys and crystals for sex.

Best Le Wand Sex Toys to Gift in 2024

Best Overall Stimulator: Le Wand Petite

The ultimate equal-opportunist, the Le Wand Petite is a wand vibrator that can be used on literally any (!) body part — Including clits and cocks, bums and bumps, backs and (ball)sacks, clicks and dicks, perineum and penis pleasure, and any other erogenous zones. Meaning, this is the toy to get if you don't know the ~specifics~ of how your giftee likes to be pleasured.

The miniaturized version of the Original Le Wand, the Le Wand Petite delivers the same deep spine-tingling vibrations that make the Le Wand so iconic. But, at just 10 inches long, it fits more easily between bodies or into an overnight bag for adventures on the go! If your giftee is more experienced or looking for more power, check out the new Le Wand Die-Cast massager.

Best Sex Toy for Non-Penetrative Vaginal Stimulation: Le Wand Point

This gift is perfect for the person who enjoys external stimulation, whether that means a clit or clitoral hood or frenulum, or phallus. A palm-shaped vibrator that's contoured to fit comfortably in your palm, the Point covers your genitals while drawing pleasure from them.

What sets the Point apart from the other palm-shaped vibrators on the market is its material. Instead of being made of just silicone, this baby is part-silicone, part-stainless steel. The stainless steel gives the heft that makes it optimal for providing external pressure against your pubic mound.

The point also provides deep, rumbly vibrations which are usually only reserved for larger vibrators like the Le Wand or Le Wand Petite. Small, my friends, can be orgasmic.

Most Whimsical Gift: Le Wand Unicorn Wand

If you’re looking for an unde-neigh-ably magical gift, look no further than the Le Wand Unicorn Special Edition Set. This gift set is perfect for the fantasy lover and features super cute accessories that make this set more than just for the bedroom.

The set includes a Special Edition Design of our Rechargeable Wand with a penetrative, horn-textured attachment cover only available with this set.

And for those who like to flaunt their fun, this set also comes with a travel bag, sticker set, keychain, iron-on patch, postcards, and a guide to living your best unicorn life!

Best Sex Toy for Spiritual Masturbators: Le Wand Crystal Slim Wand

If you keep a bundle of sage on your nightstand then you've probably thought about grabbing a crystal wand at least once. The Crystal Slim Wand (available in rose quartz and black obsidian) is perfect for those sex magic rituals or moments when you desire a break from silicone and rubber toys. The cool, smoothness of the polished crystal is a thrilling, new sensation that will help you tap into your inner sex goddess.

Crystal wands are amazing for meditative masturbation practices and temperature play (dip yours in a bowl of ice-cool water and thank me later!)

Aside from being body-safe and waterproof, the Crystal Slim Wand can be used for releasing limiting beliefs about sexuality and pleasure. Allow the crystal to help you find healing and deep pleasure. So light your incense and get aligned.

Best Sex Toy for Internal Stimulation: Le Wand XO

Sleek, sensational, and fit for all bodies, the XO is the ultimate stimulator from our Le Wand Chrome Vibes collection.

A vibe for all bodies, the XO's uniquely shaped wave design targets your most sensation-stimulating zones for internal play. Curved perfectly for reaching the A-Spot or G-Spot in vagina-havers or for prostate orgasm training and stimulation for P-Spot havers, XO's tapered base makes it insertion-safe for all types of play!

The XO's tapered base even includes its own motor, delivering simultaneous vibes externally as well as internally for an orgasm that rocks your whole body.

Best Sex Toy for Penis Play: Le Wand Perfect Penis Pleasure Pack

If your partner has a penis *and* you've already used a wand vibe like the Le Wand together, consider gifting them this penis pleasure set. Designed to pop over the head of the wand, the Le Wand Loop & Stroke attachments immediately transfer the toy into a rumbly masturbation sleeve.

With a textured interior that's designed to replicate the texture of a vagina or anus, paired with a high-quality water-based lube or warming sensation lube, they'll be able to experience the joys of penetrative sex even when you're not present.

Or, yanno, while you watch...

NEW TO PENIS PLAY? You'll love our most popular guides on how to use a vibrator on a dick, edging with a vibrator, and cock warming (it's not what you think!)

Is that everything?

Sometimes, a sex toy can't be used directly out of the box (so we suggest that you clean it first in any case, buckaroo). Be sure if the sensation you're looking for requires an accessory you purchase together, or if the toy you're buying is penetrative that you also get some lube. (Nothing is worse than the joy of receiving a sex toy and the defeat of realizing there's no lube to use it with). If you aren't sure what their perfect combination is, check out the Complete Sensual Care Bundle, which is perfectly assembled for outrageous orgasms.

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Last but not least, we have a few honorable mentions for steel sex dildos and this little-known toy that everyone is raving about — the pussy pump. And while you're at it, don't forget to read up on why you need some coconut oil lube for your next play session!